Sure, people are busy. Some people are even busier than others. Even some people who participate in online dating are too busy for the new-wave,cyber dating process.
But, do not let your desire for meeting your match rush you into one of these online dating con jobs that looks too good to be true. Because, in all honesty, if it looks too good to be true ... it probably is too good to be true.
Newbies can easily be suckered. Here's one that I remember: A beautiful woman from Russia, her English is a little broken, she becomes quickly enamored, and she soon wants to progress things to off the dating website. It's not long before she is trying to shake you down for some money so that you all can meet and your mutual dreams of a perfect relationship can turn into reality.
Here's another one. You hear from this woman who has one spectacular photo. In the back of your mind you're thinking, "Damn." She lets you know that if you provide her your email address and/or phone number then she can share a few more photos with you. You get offline and then she tells you that you can see her on her pay website (yes, one of those websites). All you need to do is have a credit card and you can talk to her all you want.
Come on,now. You have to approach online dating like a boxer: Keep your guard up and protect yourself at all times. Let your guard down and they'll drop you like a bad habit.
I did an online search of people scammed as a result of online dating. It is chilling. tens and hundreds of thousands of dollars have been lost by people.
So, what can you do?
Here are a few tips:
If it looks too good to be true ... it probably is too good to be true.
- If they quickly try to take you off the website (trying to get your personal email address or phone number), it's probably a scam.
- They drop on you that they're actually from a foreign country. I've seen Russia, the Philippines and Nigeria.
- If you're over 50 and a hot girl in her 20s seems strangely interested, don't fall for it, bruh.
- They cater to your ego (they skim your profile and try to hit on things they think that you want to hear, and do it a little too well).
- The conversation is superficial and they make excuses about meeting in person.
- Or, they want to meet too soon and it feels unnaturally rushed.
Play it smart and play it safe. Take your time to be sure you've discovered your true match.
